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Chris you and your wife and family are certainly going through one heck of a tough time right now. You are trying your darndest to be as supportive and as understanding of your wife as you can be, and that makes you a pretty special sort of a guy.
I know what you are going through. I have there and done that, albeit years ago now. My darling husband has long since passed on, ( I am, I would guess, be old enough to be your grandmother almost ) but like you rself Chris, he was a really neat guy, who suddenly found himself in a similar position to what you are in. He really bore the brunt of my prolonged illness. He had to look after 4 little kiddies.. including a 6 month infant, and another with severe disabilities. And then there was I , totally useless from being extremely anxious one day, to having huge black clouds of depression engulfing me the next. It was a terrible , terrible time. Chris, I can't help you with medical advice. Each case is different , as each person. I do just want you to know, that it is possible to get through this. though. However, it is not something you can do without some expert help .... I am out of touch now with what they do do, but I do know that once you have been on any of these medications, you cannot, just stop them overnight. Even if you are having bad reactions to them, you have to wean off slowly, and be put on something else at the same time . It is a long haul, a hard slog, and when a person has got down as bad as your wife has, she definitely will need medication to get her through this. Severe Anxiety and depression alone are both beasts, but together, you are dealing with one heck of a monster! However, it is beatable, so don't ever think that it is not . Together you can win this battle, but I am afraid that at this stage, it will probably largely come down to you. Your wife may not even be able to think straight , and at times may not even want to. It took me a few months to get well enough to take back my role as a mother and a wife, but it did take longer to get over my breakdown fully. The import thing was, that my Doctor weaned me off my medications very gradually, and I did make a complete recovery and with absolutely no relapses, and life did became wonderful again. Even though, since then I have had more stresses to cope with, I have coped, and I know that I am probably stronger now, through all of this, then I ever was before.
Bless you Chris, and I only wish I could do more for you . If only I had a wand....

I've had Aropax but thankfully apart from a very dry mouth all of the time I didn't have any adverse reactions really. I am very sorry for all your troubles and I don't know what else to say really . Just hope it has helped you a little to get some of your burdens off your chest.

Hey, your right i know we will get through it. she is much better this morning already, the only problem in our case was that she had a very rare reaction to the drugs and they were actually harming her, they said she had to stop because he life was at risk. Thats why the withdrawal symptoms were so bad, she didnt have any other choice but to come off them straight away. But our pastor came round last night and had a talk to her and she seems to be very positive today, i know she will have ups and downs but things are starting to look better, So i think its important for everybody to know that you will get through it even in the most extreme case's. It has been good that my work has been very understanding also, if i need to go i just say im off and thats it.

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I've had Aropax but thankfully apart from a very dry mouth all of the time I didn't have any adverse reactions really. I am very sorry for all your troubles and I don't know what else to say really . Just hope it has helped you a little to get some of your burdens off your chest.

Yea definatly has, i was just really having trouble because i dont really have any family or anything and i dont want to talk about it with my wife because im worried it will upset her. But i feel heaps better now lol. suprising... youd think i would just go and have a beer or something but i end up on a woman's forum.

Well, I guess each and everyone of us have had a time or reason for needing someone to confide in, off load, or even vent to at some stage in our lives or relationships. It is not always the right thing to do , or the easiest thing , to share ones burdens with those who are very close or well known to us. But I think that it is very true to say that a worry shared is a worry halved!.
It is really good to hear that the outlook is seeming a lot more positive today Chris than it did yesterday.